I have spent most of my adult life working with people that are in a crisis of some kind. They find their way to me to resolve conflict, internal or external. And in all that time of working with people in this way, I have found that there is one thing that is more toxic to the system than anything else: keeping secrets.

I think often of this time, years ago, when I was invited to a Dim Sum brunch by my brother-in-law with his Chinese guru. In attendance were several other students of…

Recently, I was mediating a case (marital mediation – kind of like couple’s therapy but more concrete and faster). The issue seemed to begin with an over-indulgence in porn. Many people don’t realize, but when you have an orgasm, your brain dumps chemicals into your system making you attach to the object of your sexual encounter. Could be an actual person, or it could be that anonymous stranger sex depicted with a video camera – two dimensionally.

So now, what turns you on is Girls…