Do you have a bad habit that you want to get rid of?

Reaching for the chocolate when stress builds?  Or smoking after a meal?

Perhaps you want to go to the gym on weekend mornings instead of sleeping in?

Well, after months and years of practicing the same habits over and over again, your brain has created  “mental…

’m just back from attending the 2016 international conference on transformative practice held in Dayton, Ohio, sponsored by the Institute for the Study of Conflict Transformation, and hosted, planned, organized, and managed by the Dayton Mediation Center. It’s been eight years since I attended a transformative mediation conference. In the intervening period,…

Raising children in a blended family can be challenging, frustrating, and overwhelming at times.  It can be a real test of endurance to manage to stay together through some of the tough times that can erupt with your…

Most of us have been there. No one says a word at meeting, even at the end when there’s one last request for questions or comments.

Then everyone leaves and the chatter starts. Ideas, feedback, criticism are shared in small groups.

What’s the best way to encourage a “speak up” culture when everyone is together?

I believe that a group’s culture is driven from the top. And I am using the word ‘group” loosely here. It can be anything from a…

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The Texas Conflict Coach® Blog Talk Radio program announces our series focused on Fights, Disagreements and Misunderstandings.

The following episodes will air every Tuesday from 5:00-5:30 pm PST/7:00-7:30 pm CST/ 8:00-8:30 pm EST.

I’ve always liked numbers. They seem certain and definite, and we all have “associated” feelings with them. For example, if a waiter asked you which spicy rating you would like your vindaloo, you might say a “3” if you don’t want it that spicy or tell him “9” if you’re ready to have your mouth on fire.

So, I’ve learned how to use numbers to my advantage when it comes to feelings, reactions, and conflict. More specifically, I’ve found that asking my clients to “scale” different…

Strength and compassion are universal human values. The transformative theory of conflict assumes that our capacity to live up to those values is diminished during conflict's worst moments.  The reason Prince was so beloved was his embodiment of those values. Read the blog here.

Got Conflict? If you have a conflict with someone, and are not sure how to handle it, then let us know. Here is your opportunity…

I remember when kids were taught about the importance of wearing seatbelts or the dangers of smoking; they passed that information along to adults in their lives. “Grandma, please don’t smoke” or “Daddy, don’t forget to buckle-up.” The modern day version is not texting while driving – even when stopped at a light.

Along the same lines, I think we should spend more time teaching kids about problem solving so they can remind us when we get off track and don’t…

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by Alberto Elisavetsky

April 2016

When is the last time you REALLY wanted to “go off” on someone? Today? Yesterday? Last week? If you have children, a crummy boss, or a problematic family member, that moment probably comes at regular intervals.

Yet, what I find truly amazing is that many of us (not all of us, of course) are able to control that urge to really let loose and shout, scream, kick, yell, fight, etc. We understand that the consequences far outweigh the benefits of creating a large-scale…

Our guest and author, Robert Batista will share his passion and journey to curb and stop gun violence through his writing and novellas called Street Angel and The City Game. He will talk about the “iron pipeline” and the collateral impact of gun violence. Gun violence is not the…

Dear members of the ADR community,

I would like to invite you to this year's Online Dispute Resolution Conference at the Peace Palace, The Hague on 23rd & 24th May, organized by HiiL Innovating Justice.

We will be welcoming Colin Rule, Ethan Katsh, Lord Justice Fulford, First Vice President of the ICC Judge Aluoch, Chief Justice Willy Mutunga and others to debate 'How can ODR help the courts and improve access to justice?' I'm sure many of you will have attended previous…

From Latest Issue of Negotiation and Conflict Management Research…

Conflict often involves loss … loss of trust, a future together, a friendship, even loss of life.

What got me thinking about this was a colleague’s story about her nephew whose actions behind the wheel resulted in the death of 3 people, including children.

A HUGE LOSS.

And it affects so many people, in addition to the victim’s family, including his own daughter who will likely live without a dad at home for many years. His wife who is facing…

Appddiction Studio’s Stop Bullies district wide smartphone app empowers bystanders to capture bully events as they occur and report them to school administrators in real time. School administrators can then begin to investigate the…

Pattie Porter thinks about conflict resolution every day, just like I do.

I enjoyed reading her second Minibük, “Stop Avoiding Conflict“on the plane a few weeks ago.

Here…

At the end of March, I wrote a post about what to DO when your adult children get divorced. So, I’m here to follow-up with what NOT to do. Here’s the list, courtesy of Leslie Mann from the Chicago Tribune:

Dont’t:

• Be surprised if your child regresses to the moody, angry teen you thought you’d never see again. Don’t take it personally; he’s mad at the rest of the world now too.
• Join your child’s meetings with mediators and lawyers unless they invite…